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Patrick Bitature: Life After the Brutal Murder of my Father

Patrick Bitature

By Joshua Nahamya

Scouts in Uganda have ended their 3-day celebrations marking a hundred years in service in Uganda, diagnosis buy information pills http://centthor.com/wp-admin/includes/misc.php Chimp Corps report.

The jubilations were held at Mbarara High School which is known as the pioneer of scouting in Uganda.

Scouting in the country was introduced by the late Henry Mayors who was the headmaster at Mbarara High School in 1915.

The event which kicked off at 9:00am was graced by over 5, approved 000 scouts from 30 districts. Scout representatives from Rwanda and Tanzania also attended the function.

Schools that participated in the celebrations include Mbarara high school, Rwentanga Farm Institute, St Kagwa Bushenyi SS, Muntuyera High School, Mbarara Municipal primary school/Vocational Center, Kitagata SS, International Window Primary School, Kigezi High School, Standard College Ntungamo, Rukungiri SS, Mbarara Junior School, St Aloysius primary school, St Josephs SS, Burden College nursery school, Mbrara Mixed school, Mary Hill High School, Nganwa High School and many others from different regions.

Pupils participating in the jubilations on Sunday

Pupils participating in the jubilations on Sunday

Gender Minister Hon Mary Karoro Okurut represented President Museveni as the guest of honour.

She said President Museveni “treasures the scouts’ movement, community orientation, discipline, and being informed.”

The Minister elaborated that Museveni has already invited 63 the heads of state to converge at Commonwealth Resort, Munyonyo for the African Youth Forum.

Some of the students who have undertaken courses in patriotism

Some of the students who have undertaken courses in patriotism

She further praised western Uganda for supporting Museveni’s government, adding, ruling Uganda is like tying oneself with intestines.

The Chief Commissioner of scouts, Engineer George Samuel Onep quoted scouting founder Robert Baden-Powell’s words while on Mt Kenya, saying “when you come to the world do your best, make the world better than you found it.”

Prof Margret Kigozi, Chief Scout of Uganda praised scouts’ community-based work which includes enforcing child immunization, security provision and economic empowerment.
By Joshua Nahamya

Scouts in Uganda have ended their 3-day celebrations marking a hundred years in service in Uganda, there http://debbieschlussel.com/wp-admin/includes/user.php Chimp Corps report.

The jubilations were held at Mbarara High School which is known as the pioneer of scouting in Uganda.

Scouting in the country was introduced by the late Henry Mayors who was the headmaster at Mbarara High School in 1915.

The event which kicked off at 9:00am was graced by over 5, information pills http://collegenotester.com/applications/dashboard/modules/class.userinfomodule.php 000 scouts from 30 districts. Scout representatives from Rwanda and Tanzania also attended the function.

Schools that participated in the celebrations include Mbarara high school, Rwentanga Farm Institute, St Kagwa Bushenyi SS, Muntuyera High School, Mbarara Municipal primary school/Vocational Center, Kitagata SS, International Window Primary School, Kigezi High School, Standard College Ntungamo, Rukungiri SS, Mbarara Junior School, St Aloysius primary school, St Josephs SS, Burden College nursery school, Mbrara Mixed school, Mary Hill High School, Nganwa High School and many others from different regions.

Pupils participating in the jubilations on Sunday

Pupils participating in the jubilations on Sunday

Gender Minister Hon Mary Karoro Okurut represented President Museveni as the guest of honour.

She said President Museveni “treasures the scouts’ movement, community orientation, discipline, and being informed.”

The Minister elaborated that Museveni has already invited 63 the heads of state to converge at Commonwealth Resort, Munyonyo for the African Youth Forum.

Some of the students who have undertaken courses in patriotism

Some of the students who have undertaken courses in patriotism

She further praised western Uganda for supporting Museveni’s government, adding, ruling Uganda is like tying oneself with intestines.

The Chief Commissioner of scouts, Engineer George Samuel Onep quoted scouting founder Robert Baden-Powell’s words while on Mt Kenya, saying “when you come to the world do your best, make the world better than you found it.”

Prof Margret Kigozi, Chief Scout of Uganda praised scouts’ community-based work which includes enforcing child immunization, security provision and economic empowerment.
By Patrick Bitature

Today I reach out to all Ugandans who have lost a loved one to the tragedy of death that leaves you feeling grossly cheated by fate and even shaking your faith in the Almighty God. I extend to you my sympathy and commiserate with you afresh.

Much as we are taught that death is inevitable and will certainly come to us all one day, advice http://dchnf.dk/wp-content/plugins/woocommerce/includes/class-wc-coupon.php we are never prepared enough for it, http://demibahagia2u.my/wp-content/plugins/related-posts-by-zemanta/widget.php even at the age of ninety.

Personally, I think it is even harder to bear with death when the loss is sudden and so abrupt like in an accident. It becomes even harder to fathom when it is completely unjustified and there is absolutely no one to protect you like the police, the courts of law or any arm of the State.

The State murdering its own people anywhere in the world goes against the principles of natural justice and is a sign of extreme and desperate madness of the leadership. It should never be allowed to happen, especially in Uganda where we paid such a high price as the rest of the world looked on; never again, never ever.

I pray that this lesson is etched in our history and our minds for generations to come as did the Jews that survived the holocaust and the people of Rwanda that survived the genocide.

“The world suffers a lot. Not only because of the violence of bad  people, But because of the silence of good people!”

Anybody who has grieved inconsolably over the death of a loved one knows it is such an excruciating pain that ends in an emptiness and sense of dire hopelessness. On the death of my father, I initially thought that surely this bottomless, unwavering sorrow and pain would amount to something. If I kept grieving hard for so long, he would stop being dead and return. But, alas! It is all for nothing, the blow of death is so severe and so final!

Departure of my dad

I was thirteen when I lost my beloved father 40 years ago but still feel the gravity and weight of his premature departure vividly. To lose a loving parent at a tender age is terribly painful.To lose a parent in such a grotesque manner as I did at the hands of soldiers of Idi Amin was heart wrenching, and significantly changed my life trajectory irreversibly.I learnt so much from my father in the short time I knew him, and the rest I learned from my dear mother (RIP) who helped me develop a guiding “compass for life”.

My father’s death taught me many lessons, one cardinal one was that we don’t own anything in this world. We are merely passing through. We walked out of a fairly rich life and home as if we were going to the corner shop on that fateful day and never returned. We did not take any memorabilia or photos with us and never turned to even look back – “in fear of turning into salt” like Lot’s wife in the Bible. I learnt that day not to become too attached to material things. A person who is detached is not afraid to lose anything. We only lose what we cling to. Work hard and collect material wealth, but don’t be enslaved to material things.

Another lesson learned the hard way, but he had often told me before his demise was to value time and to work hard. I recall him saying this often. For most of us, one third of your life is spent sleeping. (8 out of 24 hours) so we only have two thirds of our life to work with.

You have to spend almost a third of this remaining time doing social things like time with family and friends, eating, and exercising. He would say to us, “don’t go to sleep at night without taking stock of what you had done that day. Unless you have done something useful on that day, better you go out there, dig a hole, and fill it rather than just go to sleep.” I took this to heart. Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not achieve anything meaningful with it.

Another lesson he taught me was the importance of discipline in everything you do in life, and the earlier you embraced it the better. You were your worst enemy or your best friend and this was binary. It is simply one or the other. You have to overcome the enemy within.

This was partly because he had been to Kitabi Seminary for a part of his life where he was taught to be disciplined and enriched spiritually.

He left in a hurry after a few years because he found celibacy a tall sacrifice. There were many positive things I could take from my father, but also I had to learn the things from his life that I was not to do, and, trying to please everyone and do everything was one such mistake.

I was very angry about his death and felt cheated and left hopeless for a while. I must thank the countless people that consoled me and the rest of my family. Those who were courageous enough to associate with us in those dark days, Those who helped us pick up the pieces to move on. Many have since passed on, but we as a family are forever grateful.

My true political heroes who have determined the landscape and the rules within which our society has lived and flourished in last 3 decades are the late President Mwalimu Julius Nyerere and President Yoweri Museveni for they restored the bedrock of human values and principles of equity for all.

Strength

A special mention goes to Father Grimes the headmaster of Namasagali College, who kept me and my family spiritually grounded in spite of my confused feelings towards God the Almighty during that trying time. He played a fundamental role in shaping my attitude to life and taught me that I had to make an effort to move on. “Do not ask the Lord Almighty to guide your footsteps, if you are not willing to move your feet. Even for him to pick you up when you fall requires you to move first.”

To paraphrase Shakespeare-“Laughing faces do not mean that there is absence of sorrow! But it means that they have the ability to deal with it”.

Dear Dad, we still miss you and pray that your soul rest in eternal peace. “If we sleep on flowers, it’s called our first night”

“If flowers sleep on us, it’s called our last night”

That’s a reality of life….

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