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Liz reportedly found her boy friend cheating on her and could not contain the ugly scene. She locked herself in her room and set herself ablaze.
Unlike Liz, most of the people who have overcome heartbreaks realized they could not change the situation but could change their responses to the situation.
This is what author Jack Canfield in his book, The Success Principles formulated to mean:
E+R=O (Events+ Response =Outcome).
Heartbreaks are a common phenomenon however happy people respond to these events in their lives in a way that supports their inner peace and wellbeing.
Rejection is a very painful emotional experience; but to love is so pleasant an experience that one has to risk being heartbroken.
If you can love someone to the point of killing yourself then you can as well love him enough to face the problem and focus on a solution.
By keeping a solution-focused mindset, you reserve your energy on what works instead of self-blame.
I am sure those celebrating decades of their anniversaries in love have ever experienced heartbreaks but chose to remain open to love again.
Marci Shimoff author of the book Happy for No Reason says: “The happiest 100 people have a secret that allows them to stop blame. They believe that the universe is out to support them; and they feel that whatever is happening has a gift or a lesson in it for them.” The dead never learn, neither do they feel happy.
Even when they cannot see the lessons in the moment, their past experiences reveals to them the many things they set their hearts on but realized it would not have made them happy anyway. They believe whatever happens, is always for the best.
Conclusively to overcome rejection, victims have to make peace with themselves and learn to let go.
This, certainly is not easy, but a worthy experience. Stop blaming yourself and hope for the best in the future. If you could find the heartbreaker, you can find better.
Divert the energy to another passion that brings you joy.
The author is a Ugandan motivational speaker based in San Diego-USA